"I put pressure on myself to lose all the baby weight in three months" - Beyonce said this. There is nothing that interesting about this. It is exactly what you would expect. But it is what she said next that made me feel like I am a normal, "human" mother.
"I have a little mommy pouch, and I'm in no rush to get rid of it. I think it's real."
I had a thought. If Beyonce is not in a rush to lose her "mummy pouch" then why am I so obsessed? My mummy pouch has provided nourishment, life and love to my baby for a whole nine months. Why would I be in a rush to get rid of it? I should be proud of it, embrace it even. Don't get me wrong, getting back to your pre-baby self and fitness is a great idea for when you are ready and well. Exercise and eating well are two of the best ways to achieve this and have huge benefits for your physical and mental health. However, it is our health and well-being that we should really be focusing on, not losing weight! Worrying about what your post-baby body looks like is not good for you, and let's be honest, most of us are maybe a little unrealistic about the bodies we want to achieve and the time in which we want to achieve them.
If we look back to our hunter gatherer days, there is a perfectly good reason why the human female body wants to hold on to calories after giving birth. Our babies depended on our breast milk and we needed calories to maintain the supply and demand! Our bodies are not designed to lose weight after giving birth...or at least that is what I keep telling myself every time I start to feel self conscious about my "Mummy pouch".
Some of us manage to lose weight after birth, some of us put on weight after birth. Some of us stay the same. But we are all mums and we have much more important things to worry about than our "Mummy pouches". Things like when we can muster up the energy to change this milk stained t-shirt I am wearing that my baby has been using as a personal face wipe/chew thing for the past two hours...yes we have all been there!
Did you feel pressure to lose your baby weight? Have you got any tips for other mums feeling under pressure?
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